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PTSD and the Unfiltered Reality of American Racism
“The deaths of 2 black men by hanging, and calls for investigation, explained,” read the vox.com headline just three weeks ago. Shocked, I googled for more information. In separate parts of California, the bodies of two Black men were found public execution style,...
The “White Problem:” An American experience in racism
The earliest memory I have of noticing my race is when I was very small. I remember sitting at the kitchen table, staring at my thin legs dangling freely above the floor. I looked at them and thought, I wish I was white. What could make a little girl hate the color...
Keeping Up With the Coronavirus: Managing the mental health pandemic
It’s week four of the coronavirus pandemic quarantine in the Bay Area. To keep my mental health in check, I walk the trails by my house daily and have noticed a shift. People move to the side of the street instead of playing chicken for sidewalk space. Where there...
Identity Lies in the Age of Ancestry.com
One of the most emotional experiences of my life occurred when I received the results of an ancestry.com DNA test. The entirety of my existence, my family lineage, were sent on a tailspin. So many things made sense. Yet feelings of anger, relief, betrayal, and...
Self Care: What it is and how to do it
A few years ago, the concept of self care was foreign to me. Work was all consuming. If I wasn’t working, I felt guilty. If I felt tired, I would simply push myself through the uncomfortableness. The only time I allowed myself to rest was when I passed out. And...
5 Red Flags of Like Versus Lust: How I Learned the Difference
Did I like you or lust you? We’ve all been there. You meet someone and feel there’s a genuine connection. You vibe with them; your energies mix creating a blissful aura of peace and harmony. You think this encounter will flourish into partnership because you both like...
Root Chakra Balancing: Why it’s so important
Imagine building a house without a solid foundation. It doesn’t matter how beautiful a structure you’ve built, how high the walls, or what stone counters or floors you’ve installed, it’s basically a house of cards that can be blown apart with even the slightest upset....
Loneliness vs. Being Alone: A Fundamental Difference
It’s the weekend. You’re home alone. People are all over social media posting their adventures while you sit home with a silent phone. It’s like you’re the only one not doing a damn thing. Sound familiar? There are two things you can do in this situation: feel sorry...
Dark Energy in a Crystal Craze: Reasons to check your suppliers
Over the past few years, the market for healing crystals has grown exponentially. It seems you can’t step foot into a flea market or street fair without a slew of tables offering a variety of gemstones in all shapes and sizes....
Codependency and the Power of Saying No
Have you ever caught yourself stuck in a situation you didn’t want to be in? You defied that intuitive feeling that told you “nah sis, I don’t want to do this,” yet there you are trying your best not to think about an escape plan while engaging in an uninteresting...
Why I’m Alright Without Children After 30
Most women my age beat themselves up over their childless circumstances. In American culture, 30 seems to be the acceptable age for moving into the family-building facet of life. Women feel like they have to be married by 30, have a baby by 30, own a house by 30, be...
More Money, More Problems
People are too quick to believe that money solves all problems. The sentiment is that if more money would come in, then everything would be fine. Everything. There would be no more fighting, the bills would be paid, worries would cease to exist and life would be...
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